Here are some of the reasons people have found adoption counselling valuable:
- Counselling offers a safe environment where adoptive parents, birth parents and birth relatives
and adopted adults can look at a whole range of thoughts and the feelings they are experiencing.
- The counsellor is not there to judge but to listen, understand and help make sense of what the
person or couple may be going through.
- Counselling can help the adoptive parents think through some of the practical issues involved with
adoption such as meeting birth parents, maintaining some form of contact for their child with his birth
family, either through letters or possibly face to face meetings.
- Counselling can support adoptive parents in understanding and managing difficult and distressing
behaviours in their children.
- Counselling can help birth parents and birth relatives think about what they have been through,
painful as it may be, that led to their children being separated from them and placed with adoptive
- Counselling can help the adoptive parents look at experiences, and possibly unresolved issues
from their past that may be affecting their parenting.
- Counselling can help birth parents look at experiences from their past that may have contributed
to the separation of their children from them and placed with adoptive parents.
- Counselling can help birth relatives think about what happened to children in their family that
led to an adoptive placement.
- Counselling can help birth relatives think about ways in which they can continue to support
the birth parents and perhaps maintain contact with children who have been adopted.